"One's philosophy is not best expressed in words; it is expressed in the choices one makes... and the choices we make are ultimately our responsibility." - Eleanor Roosevelt
Last month we looked at the question "What are your intentions?" and saw that in everything we do, we do with intent. Whether the intention is conscious or not, there is always a purpose behind it, a reason for acting or doing something.
Similarly, in life we are always faced with choosing and deciding. Whether it is a simple choice of "What are we going to have for lunch?" or a more important decision affecting our life and career, the choices we make lead us on a journey in certain directions. It is apparent that everything is the result of choices and decisions, some more profound than others but nevertheless moving us forward on a path.
How do we as an individual or as a group arrive at decisions? This is a good question for us to reflect upon. Depending upon our personality, we may take a great deal of time and thought to arrive at a decision. Others of us may reach a decision quickly and more intuitively. Some of us will be worried about the decisions we have made, while others of us confidently stand behind our choices. Knowing how we arrive at decisions and make choices allows us to tackle tough decisions in the future. What have we learned from past decisions? If you had a chance to change a decision, what would you do differently? Who could help you make this decision?
After looking at how we approach decisions and choices, it is important to be mindful of our decision-making skills and tendencies when approaching the challenge of a new decision. Taking the time to ask ourselves questions such as, what are the choices we have for making this decision? What are the constraints limiting our choices? What concerns us about certain choices? What is the ideal choice?
Sometimes we procrastinate when making and standing behind a decision. At that point, we need to ask ourselves, what are we afraid of? What will happen if we prolong our decision, or don't make the decision?
There are always choices to be made. How we approach making them and thinking about them, in most cases, will effect how we make the decision and help lead us to make the right decision.
"You make choices every day and almost every hour that keep you walking in the light or moving away toward darkness." - Henry B. Eyring
Paul Abra, Certified Executive Coach,
Motivated Coaching and Development